NLP and Grieving

by on March 23, 2014

It is natural that we grieve in order to come to terms with our loss. My father died last year.

When someone dies it is natural for the grieving to sometimes wonder what the deceased would have done in a given situation or imagine how they would have reacted to recent family changes or remember the many happy times we had together.

When I think of my dad, my memories are happy and positive ones.

It is definitely not the time for recrimination or to think “if only”; it is time to cherish the good memories and honor your passed loved ones.

It is unnatural or even unhealthy when perhaps three or four years on someone is still grieving and cannot move forward.  This usually means the griever is still making bad pictures in his mind.

What is more, the pictures people usually have running in their minds are usually of the worst moments (perhaps lying dreadfully sick and suffering in a hospital bed), the pictures are played over and over again and the grief just gets worse.  Certain events trigger those bad memories over and over and the griever feels like they can’t escape them.  If the grief is so consuming that the surviving can’t move away from the torturous memories they have, it is time for a change.

I was very close to my father and of course I grieved when he passed away.  I now think of him almost every day, but I am no longer grieving.  People come to me and say that I look great(considering) and that they are surprised at how well I have taken my fathers passing even though they knew how close we were.

NLP allows you to not only change those bad memories so they are more positive, but to change your reactions to certain events that trigger those negative memories in the first place.

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